ASK MISSBEHAVE
August 21st, 2008 by admin
Dear Missbehave, my first boo was seven years older than me and lived five hours away, but he was the shit and we talked all the time and he even visited for the day (he couldn’t stay the night since I had to hide him from my parents). I broke it off with him not too long into the relationship for whatever stupid reason I had at the time, but since he’s the best ever we were still friends and four years later nothing has changed and sometimes we get into these drunken tangents of calling each other biffles. anyway, in that span of four years I’ve had my fair share of terrible douchebag guys and he’s been there for each one of them laying down amazing advice (that I never followed) and just comforting me in general. basically, this has become the big brother/little sister friendship. but recently I realized that breaking up with him four years ago was a dumbass mistake and that I would love to try things again. However, I’m pretty certain that he’s not attracted to me like that anymore and I am scared shitless to throw anything out there because it would probably ruin one of the best friendships I have going. although I know that if some kind of relationship WAS possible, it would make me ridiculously happy. so do I ignore my feelings for the sake of the friendship or go for it since he’s awesome and I most likely don’t have a chance of finding another guy like him? help!
I notice that like…every girl that asks missbehave something has almost exactly the same questions. EVERYONE NEEDS TO STOP BEING SO SCARED. If you love the guy and think it could work out, SAY SOMETHING. If you think he’ll probably run away, SAY IT ANYWAYS. If nothing else, you can navigate it relatively smoothly and have a good laugh in the future if nothing pans out. OR you could end up in the best relationship ever. Either way, you either end up feeling a little wounded and awkward for a few weeks or end up in the arms of “mr. perfect.” Just follow your heart!
my big sister is going though something like this right now except the guy lives down here in fla and she lives in new orleans. either way, they’re perfect for each other and everyone sees and it and just recently she’s starting to as well. after many glasses of wine and girl talks over this issue we have decided the best option is to get super wasted with the boy, get in some sexy time, tell him how you feel, and if he reciprocates you’re home free. if not, hey, you were drunk!
it’s probably a really dumb idea and in retrospect may not go as well as we planned but it’s really the only option we could think of that may have a plan b that would erase everything.
good luck!
if you have resorted to asking these hoes for advice. you are beyond help sister.
wat da hell…go fo it!….if it doesn’t go as u would like it won’t take long to get things baq to usual with him if u are friends the way u say
if he’s that cool of a guy, he won’t run away even if he’s not interested.
think about it this way:
an awkward conversation and some residual embarassment, or getting a good thing going again?
do it!
Man up.