ASK MISSBEHAVE
August 7th, 2008 by admin
K, so here’s the deal. I have a really good boyfriend, really good. We’ve been together a little over a year and I still haven’t done anything to screw it up, which obviously means something. Anyways, dude still has notes and little crap from his ex. You know, things that you either set fire to immediately or keep in a box for a while after you break up, but eventually you get rid of them. So, he’s still got this stuff and I don’t wanna be all in his business and force him to trash it, but I thought by now he would’ve decided to get rid of it. Flat out, shit is gettin’ on my nerves. I’m not a jealous person but it’s kinda annoying just knowin’ he hasn’t done away with that stuff. Either way, somebody tell me it’s no big deal or that I’m totally right 
Awwww cute kitty!!!! Moving on,
He kinda should’ve gotten rid of it by now, since you guys have been together for a year already, but maybe he’s sentimental? Or maybe he’s a packrat? Either way maybe you could ask him why he wants to keep it and then go from there. But then again if it was me I would have taken that shit and thrown it out myself a long time ago.
i think its kinda gay, but sweet he still keeps mementos of his past loves. lord know chicks do it all the time. would you want him to destroy every shred of evidence that you two dated after you guys break up??
besides, even if he got rid of physical evidence, it doesnt mean he wouldnt still think about her…
it depends…are they out it the open in his room or hidden in a closet or something? does he look at them often or barely remembers theyre there? if he just has the stuff and doesnt really care about it, i feel like its not such a big deal. his memories of times with her will always be there regardless, and maybe 10 years down the road hell see something from their, or YOUR relationship thatll make him smile. the past is past. youre his girl now. as long as hes not still hung up on the actual GIRL, i wouldnt worry too much about some notes and photos. unless theyre naked ones.
were you snooping around? cause you know you get what you ask for when you do that. akapluto said it best, would you want him to chuck out any shred of evidence from your relationship?
it has nothing to do with the fact that he isn’t into you, and after a year i think you should have enough trust in your boy to figure that old letters from an ex ain’t got shit on you. if he was really still into the ex, they’d still be together.
don’t sweat it.
I still have love letters from middle school
me too keef. except I wrote them… to an imaginary boyfriend
I would have thrown it out myself. But then again i am a fairly jealous person and did throw out my ex’s stuff from ex’s. I figured that if i throw out my stuff from ex’s you should too.
I have mixed feelings about this because I like to keep everything that people give me who’ve been a part of my life. Then, when I get depressed and start playing their mixed tape while rocking back and forth, I have something to clutch to my bosom. I know that I have at least one ex who kept everything I gave him. Maybe it’s cause we’re still in love with each other though. But I would totally die if I knew he gave it away ALSO, if I was another girl, I would totally hate him for keeping my stuff. So, tell him how you feel and make a compromise, if it’s out, have him put it away or get rid of particularly creepy stuff.
I have have kept just about every note, letter or picture someone has given me. I have done so after ripping a picture of my first bf. My mom said I shouldn’t do that because when I get older and look back I would only be upset to loose that memory. .
I think this is something you have to get over because it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with memories and his life. A paper or picture does nothing to your relationship.
As long as he keeps it tucked away from you sight, you should respect his things and be cool.
You’ve never kept anything (in relation to ex’s) ?
But jealousy, thats a whole lot of other ugly.
that sucks because i am going through the same exact thing except they arent letters they are texts, phone calls and myspace comments galore!!! i mean all day and all night. everyday. its annoying. he even has her before me on his top on myspace to sound really immature… lol
we have been dating 4 month…
:o(
my advice: don’t go down that rabbit hole!
i was unemployed and bored so i snooped around my bfs private convos with his ex online.
they are just friends but it planted a bad jealousy seed which thankfully i’m over now because i have better things to do and there was nothing to worry about in the first place.
was your relationship any different after seeing said love notes? does he still treat you like a princess?
DON’T worry about it, it just shows he is sentimental and caring.